This movie was just confusing

If you can't tell from my past few posts, I've been on a movie watching frenzy.  Some have been interesting and thought provoking, but sometimes we like watching something light, or a cute chick flick.  A couple Jesse Eisenberg movies like Adventureland, Zombieland and American Ultra.  I mean they weren't the deepest, most cohesive storylines, but they were alright.  

So then I decided to watch another chick flick that I watched before and remembered it being decent.  I don't exactly remember when I watched it before, probably on a plane?  The movie is 10 Things I Hate About You.  I just remembered Joseph Gordon Levitt looking real young.  So I was like ok, let's give it a try again.  

I try not to review movies that I didn't like, mostly because it's really not interesting to talk about them.  But this movie was like, another level of weird and confusing.  And also mildly infuriating, which was why I wanted to talk about it.  

First off, I'm really confused as to how Bianca and Cameron got together.  At the first dance, Bianca realizes Joey is a narc, needs Cameron to drive her home.  So Cameron drives Bianca home, they get there, then he yells at Bianca for being selfish, or whatever?  Here's the scene.  And then Bianca kisses Cameron and it's all good.  What the fuck?  So Cameron's just this dude that's like, I did so much for you Bianca, why won't you look at me the way I want you to?  And then Bianca's like, ok yeah I'll kiss you.  And then we'll become a thing.  It's so confusing.  Or of course, I was just wrong the entire time.  I guess it was a lot easier than I thought to get a girl, you just do her a bunch of favors and then guilt trip her into kissing you.  Right, that's how this works.  My bad, totally missed that.  Then you can go to prom together and she's your girl.  I see now.  

But slightly more confusing than Bianca and Cam are Kat and Patrick.  Like there were a lot of scenes that stood out but the last scene, oof.  She has trust issues, and she realized that you were partly dating her because you were getting paid to?  Well all you have to do is buy her a guitar, and she'll start talking to you again.  Case solved.  Patrick, a smart man.  And then it felt like the writers were trying to make Kat a deeper character by making her say, well just because you bought me a guitar doesn't mean I trust you again.  Patrick: well I'll buy you more stuff if you need me to.  A joke, obviously, but still, then Kat laughs and they hop onto the same car and go wherever.  The end, happily ever after.  Huh?  

Or like that other time Kat was mad at Patrick.  And he makes it up to her by bringing out the marching band, and singing to her in front of the whole gym class/ soccer team or whatever.  And she was just there smiling.  But like really?  Just based on Kat's character, I didn't think she would really enjoy a sappy song being sung to her in front of dozens of her other peers.  I was like, is this really the same Kat we know, enjoying this?  Do I even know who Kat is anymore?  

My overall thoughts on this movie kind of remind me of Anthony Fantano's review on the latest Green Day album that I saw the other day.  The character development, the whole plot was so confusing to the point that I thought this might just be a really well done parody of a stupid chick flick, and that I was just not in on the joke.  I haven't really gotten out of my way to look for critiques of this movie yet; I wanted to write down my thoughts before I do.  But what really makes me feel, uncomfortable and I guess angry to a certain extent, are the positive reviews I see a lot of, casually, for this movie.  I don't want to be in a relationship like Cam is with Bianca.  I don't want what Kat and Patrick have either.  And I dunno, I think what Kat and Patrick have is a little bit more believable, but the Cam/ Bianca thing is so weird, so wildly underwritten that it feels almost dangerous to put out there.  Like in what world is Cam's behavior validated and rewarded?  I don't want to sound like a huge boomer and talk about like "the message this is speaking to the youth" or whatever.  But like really, what is this?  At best they're poorly written characters and a hastily made relationship, and at worst it's a shit example of what happens in the real world.  In fact I'm truly sold on the idea that JGL probably went on to make 500 Days Of Summer because he felt it was his responsibility to set more accurate romantic expectations for the public.  Maybe.  Idk lol.  At least I feel like that's something that would motivate me.  

Ok, that's pretty much the gist of what I wanted to say.  I'll go look for some critique videos and see if they share some of my ideas.